As a member of Generation X, my parents are in their late 70s, and recently I’ve noticed some subtle changes in their cognitive functioning. My mom sometimes forgets a word to use in a conversation. My dad can’t remember where he put his phone down. I’m aware of the typical signs of aging because of my background in gerontology and working with older adults, but when it comes to seeing these changes, I’m concerned a diagnosis of dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease is a potential outcome.
I’m also a member of what is called the “Sandwich Generation” – adults in their 40s and 50s who are simultaneously caring for aging parents and raising children. Juggling the demands of parents who need more care either because they have a debilitating disease or illness or are showing signs of cognitive decline can be overwhelming. This is when it’s important to know the signs of Alzheimer’s Disease and other signs of aging to help you determine if your parent(s) need additional support.
Alzheimer’s Disease is a brain disease that causes a slow decline in memory, thinking, and reasoning skills. It’s not easy to know whether your mom forgetting her keys every once in a while is a sign of Alzheimer’s or just a normal part of the aging process. But if you have any doubt, don’t hesitate to schedule an appointment with a doctor – even if you get some resistance from your loved one – because early detection counts.
What’s the difference between Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia versus typical age-related changes?
Signs of Alzheimer’s & Dementia
- Poor judgment / decision-making
- Inability to manage a budget
- Losing track of the date or season
- Difficulty having a conversation
- Misplacing things and being unable to retrace steps to find them
Typical Age-Related Changes
- Making a bad decision occasionally
- Missing a monthly payment
- Forgetting which day it is and remembering it later
- Sometimes forgetting a word
- Losing things from time to time
Source: Alzheimer’s Association
But while you’re now taking care of both your children and parents, who is providing the support you need? I know how hard it might be to help our parents since it’s a reversal of traditional roles. It’s difficult managing the demands of taking care of our kids and our parents. And, the stress of balancing multiple roles, combined with finding time for ourselves can lead to burnout.
If you or someone you know is caring for both parents and children and struggling to stay balanced, consider reaching out to us. Because of my work experience in a residential center for seniors and my personal experience in this dual role, I’m acutely aware of the challenges of parenting our children, supporting our parents, and finding time for us.
You don’t have to do it alone. The Institute for Girls Development offers services just for you through our adult division, Flourish Therapy + Wellness Center. Feel free to connect with our Client Relations team at 626-585-8075 ext. 108 or Intake@IFGD.care.
Disclaimer: This is not meant as medical advice. Please consult a doctor if you have concerns.
Lauren Albrecht, M.A., MSG Associate Marriage & Family Therapist – AMFT #135201
Supervised by Monica Valdivia Aguilar – LMFT # 41352
